PREVENTION is always better than CURE, but is there a way to prevent a BROKEN HEART?

since the cure meant Loving again,


a possibility of another Broken Heart.

PREVENTION is always better than CURE, but is there a way to prevent a BROKEN HEART?
Only by not being open enough to be receptive of "love" will you be able to protect your-self from a "broken heart"( Tis better to have loved and lost,then to never have loved at all.)Time heals most,and sometimes a nice big break from the possibility of a heartbreak(by working and concentrating on ourselves,bettering our lives,working on self esteem issues etc),is what we need to allow ourselves to gradually heal over time and eventually put our guard down again,all the way down and be vulnerable enough to feel the joy of love again,no matter the outcome,and that is key,there are no guarantees and you must be willing to endure the pain you have come to know so well,from having loved and lost.
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Reply:yeah, drop out and be a hermit
Reply:There is a way to prevent a broken heart. Do not open it to anybody. But if you did that, then you wouldn't really live and you would never have fun. YOu have to love to be happy. SOmetimes it works out sometimes it doesnt. And when it doesn't it hurts, but the sting goes away eventually. And without pain, love wouldn't be as great. Friends, family, and time can help cure a broken heart. In this case I think a cure is better than prevention.
Reply:It's a vicious cycle. Deal with it. Kudos on the deep question, though. Perhaps someone else can give you an equally deep answer. Unfortunately for you, that person ain't me.
Reply:No and yes...
Reply:A broken heart is nothing more than the choice to keep thinking about something or someone from the past.





Think less and move on.
Reply:There's no way to prevent a broken heart and everyone should experience it at least once if for no other reason than to be able to have some empathy for someone else with one.





If you go the prevention route though and avoid situations that could possibly lead to one, then before you know it you're old and alone and are guilty of depriving yourself and at least one other person in this world of a kick @ss time!





It's every individual's choice though. I'm glad you decided to keep asking questions.





Smile :)
Reply:Yes, there are Steps to help...





A broken heart is a sad thing, but who can prevent it? There are steps to take that will help to improve not having your heart broke. In dating, take things slow and set limits, get to know each other mentally before the physical stuff. This will allow for you to focus on whether the person conforms to what you are looking for in a relationship. Ideally being friends for a while is what I am saying. Once you have the mental connection and everything fits, you can rest a bit easier that this one will work out.





*But, is prevention better than a cure?


With prevention there would be no experience, be it good or bad. There would be no lessons learned.





Focus on the lessons learned your past experiences, and apply them to the present day. Don't be afraid of another broken heart. Life can be hard, but don't give up the experiences in life. For they are what make it worth living. ; )
Reply:Yes. If you have a broken heart due to a let down it is because you have held an expectation of someone to act the way you thought was appropriate for you. That does not make you the wrong or the bad one but you did little to prevent your heart to be broken. By not studying or testing the object of your interest ahead of time and making sure this person was the one you deserved instead of desired, you broke your own heart. People are so not like you or me out there. I am very sorry, for that pain, is a great pain. Now you can say you understand the passion of Christ and start all over, as this is, what it is all about. Remember, LOve is all there is...
Reply:Well, the cure to a broken heart, is love and forgiveness, but it doesn't have to be romantic love. If you have close friends and family, it can really help a lot. I mean, I make very sure that I myself avoid the mistake of rushing into another relationship just cus I'm hurting and need someone. You need a recovery group of safe people - people who aren't going to dump you.





As far as prevention, there are ways to help prevent a broken. There is no foolproof way to prevent a broken heart no matter what, but you can do some things to try to avoid it. First of all, get to know someone Before you date them - get to know what their family thinks of them. This will sometimes send off warning bells, and you'll realize that the person wouldn't work as your long term partner, and you can avoid of finding that out by dating. Also, date people who are very serious about dating - not people who will lead you on and them dump you. or who think short term, and then realize that you aren't the one for them. They should know who you are before dating, or how can they be serious about it?





If you know about a person's character, they know yours, and they are willing to put down some commitment, and are very serious about the relationship, you are much more likely not to have your heart broken later. If you don't know their weakness, you might find that they are terribly immature, and they will break your heart. If they are a great person, but don't know you and aren't serious about a long term relationship, they are more likely to dump you, and break you heart.





Those are a couple prevention tips that I hope might help.
Reply:In the case of broken heart, prevention means being independent and self-sufficient, and cure means sticking to the same person but redefining the terms that describes love. It is much difficult to redefine the terms since we must change our perspective of what love is.





However, since people change and relationships evolve, we must be more open to the idea of curing our hearts and relationships than having an idealistic notion that love must be perfect.





The possibility of another broken heart always exists as long as we remain willing to love. The cure is having the flexibility to adjust. In the case of love, cure is better than prevention since preventing a broken heart could result in seclusion.
Reply:To live without opening up yourself to the possibility of a broken heart is to voluntarily amputate or inactivate your feelings. This would be akin to someone who fears breaking his leg: there are two choices that may protect him with near certainty: to surgically remove the legs, or (less drastically) to avoid all activities such as walking, running, or even riding in a car. But what kind of life is that?


One cannot live fully without taking risks.


"And, in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make." -Beatles


Peace Enki
Reply:cut out your heart
Reply:Absolutely. Know yourself well enough to be able to identify your good points and your bad points. Then take the time to work out what you are looking for and only accept someone who fits into all the things you are looking for.


When you know what you are looking for and you find it, there will be not broken heart as it will be a soul mate connection.





For your choices that fall short of all that you are looking for in a partner, well, that is where the heart ache comes from. And the broken heart is the experience that shows you the absolute ecstacy of loving as well as the pain of loss. This experience makes you appreciate the partner that is all that you are looking for and makes it less likely that they will be neglected.





You only loose when you stop getting up. Get up and get your feet wet again.
Reply:The word lobotomy comes to mind.





To embrace all that life has to offer you, you must be willing to get hurt. "OUCH!" It hurts just to say that, as I feel like I am dying sometimes when my heart is broken (hurt).


So much can be enjoyed because of the fact we have feelings and, in that, the ability to hurt.


So, I do not agree that prevention is always better than a cure.





...to live and love another day.
Reply:Prevention is never better then a cure. Would you rather prevent AIDS or have a cure for AIDS.





Would you rather live a lonely life and never risk a broken heart, or have a cure for if it happens.
Reply:Is PREVENTION better than the CURE? If you are cured, then, you don't need to worry about the past...the prevention or the situation. It may sound sad, but if your heart can break be glad you have one. Most people don't. Those who fail to recognize the past are doomed to repeat it. With love, that is a whole seperate animal and we will always be doomed to repeat our mistakes, but hopefully, we learn enough that keeps us insulated later. But beware, this also takes away from the magic of love. You have to take your chances and accept the outcome, without jading you to the future or you will ruin that when it happens.
Reply:No way to prevent, but many ways to survive it, no matter how often it happens, it's not fatal; you just wish it were, for awhile.





Remember the old saying, "it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all".
Reply:No prevention for a broken heart except total loneliness
Reply:By having strong mind


strong coping mechanism


the second time around, if there is possibility of getting the heart broken again, the heart should have adapted and should have gotten stronger by then.
Reply:One doesn't have to prevent love when it comes to your way... as : ' love bends not when its alteration finds, nor bends with a remover to remove' (I've read that from a poem 15 yrs ago)... so prevention doesn't guarantee immunity or resistance to a broken heart... for if you really love someone, try as you may to avoid that person nor deny the feeling to yourself, at the end of the day, you've broken your heart more than anything or anyone could have...





the prevention for a broken love is giving unconditional love, having unwavering faith to the feeling you both have and share, and showing insurmountable trust and unparalleled respect for each other... for only through these 4 things that you could withstand every challenges (even storms) that would cross your relationship. Without or lacking in any one of these 4, you never really loved, or that the relationship is doomed to fail.





Therefore to prevent going through a broken heart is not to run away from love itself; and it is not simply to give love, but to show trust, respect, and faith in one another. That is the best way to prevent a broken heart... learn the art of really loving with your heart and the whole of you.
Reply:Loving and hurting is synonymous.Even when you find true love,,you can`t exempt yourself yourself from getting hurt. There are ups and downs in any relationship. It is the reality of love..of life. If you don`t want to get hurt from loving...don`t get involve yourself into it.
Reply:Yes, there's always a way. That's what it means to be born into this world = Broken heart. IF you can mend it while you're here, then maybe you won't have to suffer it again.





Good luck!
Reply:To prevent a broken heart


you simply must make it strong


exercise it with a strong decisive mind


quench its thirst with the nectar of altruism and unselfishness


feed it with the honey of compassion and sympathy


nurture it with sharing and goodness


give it the fruit of humbleness and patience


treat it with respect and grace


satisfy its needs with warmth and care


pamper it with kindness and affection


When you have done this and


you feel your heart pumping with warmth


then reach out to the world


be not afraid


for all these virtues intertwined


are a protective wall


stronger than a fortress


nothing can make your heart twist or turn.





You see Enki, it's not love that breaks a heart


It's the weakness in US


that prohibits us from becoming strong


and accepting love for what it is


our ally and friend


NOT our enemy.
Reply:To prevent a broken heart an individual should perform


actions of their own volition and expect nothing in return.


For example consider the following statement,


"I trusted you and you let me down, you broke my heart."


The source individual of the statement broke both of


the prevention techniques. They trusted in someone else


which yielded the source's volition. They allowed someone


else to let them down which implies they expected something


in return.
Reply:I believe this is a very sincere question...


Yes there is, learn to build Conscious and Mature relationships





Good luck! Bear hugs! ;-)
Reply:Lead a very restricted life until you grow up, which you won't unless you give your heart to it. Scars are the war wounds of experience. Experience is life itself.
Reply:for prevention dont mix passion.%26amp;


always maintain distance.
Reply:I understand the metaphor of a broken heart, but I've never "felt" this. So, from my perspective, I can only assume it can't be "prevented," since it's unpredictable %26amp; can't be controlled. To truly love %26amp; be loved for ANY length of time is wonderful. Quality vs quantity? Maybe. Would the cure be loving again? Not the cure, just inevitable. Same risk? Yes. Worth it? Yes.
Reply:"since the cure meant Loving again"


No.


Love is a Feeling and Feelings cannot be controlled.


Feelings can only be sometimes , monitored .


( You cannot say to yourself , i will not love this person or i will love this person but you can say to yourself , the love i have for this person cannot be concreted for some logical reasons.)


The result will be the same Broken Heart.
Reply:we learn through our pain.





nuff said.