Wouldn't concentration on self-awareness and self-esteem as prevention be more effective than......?

......all the time, money, and energy spent on the effects of lack of self-awareness and low self-esteem? Effects like domestic violence, divorce, motherhood making some women poor. I can clearly see that many of the feminists on this forum lack self-awareness and don't really have much self-esteem. It only gets worse out there in non-intellectual forums, like life. I'm asking whether there should be more focus on building self-awareness and self-esteem as prevention, rather than pounding false self esteem in after the effects of a lack are felt and not promoting self awareness, which seems to be the norm today.

Wouldn't concentration on self-awareness and self-esteem as prevention be more effective than......?
Good idea. You can lead the way.
Reply:There should be as much concentration on self-awareness and self-esteem as prevention. Though some feminists will not agrree with you, but sadly that is the norm. When will this world be cured?
Reply:I think you're on the right track, but a lot of the woman who you see as having low self-esteem aren't getting the prevention from the start. Of course it would be easier to immediately set women up to be strong before it becomes a problem, but that's not what is happening in many cases, so how can you blame them? Women from a family where there is a matriarch and a patriarch aren't going to need this, but in most homes, the male is dominant. The schools are not encouraging the females to be powerful and the media certainly is not portraying the independent woman. Looks, looks, looks and if you don't have them or aren't sweet or vivacious, what kind of woman are you? Prevention only works completely if everyone is on board!
Reply:I would think there was more than enough swaggering exhibitionism and extravagant self-aggrandisement coming out of the opposite sex on this section, to fill a hot-air balloon. Some deep self-analysis and ordinary self-examination wouldn't come amiss in them?
Reply:Their movement is based around blaming men for everything, makes them feel better.. temporarily.
Reply:Good question. I commend you. Have a star.





I think that is a great idea, and it should be so.
Reply:What you are suggesting, if I understand correctly, is that we need to focus young women on their development of self-awareness and self-esteem, so that they don't find themselves in abusive situations or ones that will lead them to welfare and other social assistance programs...





Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that a parents' job? Parenting, from my standpoint, isn't just birthing, feeding and housing...it is developing the character of the child from an early age. Instilling in them the notion of right and wrong, and filling them with self-confidence so that they go out in the world as productive and positive and CONTRIBUTING human beings. If society is going to spend its time on this area, perhaps it should be on mandatory parenting classes...so the child gets a good start at life.





A second income is a great thing...but if it comes at the cost of a child's self esteem and learning important life lessons, then I don't think it is the responsibility of 'society' to make up where the parents failed. I DO believe in social programs, but I don't believe in making up for failed parenting...the country just can't afford it!
Reply:Considering the fact that I got this sort of training throughout compulsory school and college, yes, I'd say it's effective, to a point.





However, it won't work well without co-operation from groups outside the education system, like the legislature, the media, and even the family unit. *That* is why there's so much emphasis on studying the lack and how to fix it.





Also, Yahoo!Answers isn't an especially intellecual forum, so if you were lumping this site in with college, consciousness-raising groups, and esoteric discussions, I'll have to disagree.
Reply:What about the women who actually HAD self-esteem, until the person that abused them over time, took it away?





Having self-esteem is great but it's not enough to keep some women from becoming victims of domestic violence. There are MANY other factors that come into play when a woman decides to stay with an abusive partner.

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